On Social Media sites we encounter some motivational speakers who introduce us to the idea of not restricting yourself on following a timeline in order to achieve success. What I mean by success here is living with authenticity, contentment and finding our inner happiness. Have you ever that feeling where you have reached everything and have done according to you plan but still you feel that there is something is lacking but you can't pinpoint what it is?
According to these speakers, success in life doesn't determine by getting the accomplishment for a certain milestone. For example at age 16, you should be doing a part time job. By the age of 20, you finished college and by 27, you get married and have children. Then at age 30, you are already retired and so on and so forth. Even our society have own set of timeline that we should follow in our lives and if we don't follow it then it might imply that something is not right with us.
Although following a timeline gives us the direction and control on how we want to see ourselves in the future. It gives the drive to push forward with our goals and there is this notion that life is limited so for as long as you are able and healthy do it before your body wears out or do it while your love ones are still alive however the downside of it is we are losing our authenticity because of imposing some self restricting beliefs that when things gets beyond our control and doesn't go on our way, we become too depressed and unable to accept and do new things. We become so hard on ourselves and we also extend this towards over others unaware that they have their own set of needs and with that we lose our sense of compassion to ourselves and others.
When we achieve a certain milestones in our lives, we sometimes boasts it in front of others probably it would also provide for some people to move forward especially for those who follow a certain goals but for others, it doesn't resonate that much because they may have different perspective in life or become more upset within themselves and felt inferior because they also try doing the way you do but it doesn't work with them.
When we push things to meet a deadline, it suffers the quality and the time that our body needs to process and grow. When we rush things, it doesn't give us that stability and lasting effect that we truly need.
We have our own timing, our own readiness and uniqueness that most of us take it for granted because we wanted to be belong and make the society accept us.
True that in this world life is limited and we have to aspire for a goal and live on purpose however by being authentic, it teaches us to be flexible, be resilient, find acceptance and adaptability to the things that we cannot control of. We have plans and goals that we want to accomplish that are great however there are times that life brings us to a set of detours that direct us to a better opportunity that we can't imagine and it reduces the sense of regret and brings inner peace.
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